Hi My_applequestions,
Thank you for participating in the Apple Support Communities. We understand you can't seem to find the right resolution for your external display. You'll want to make sure you're following these steps to change the display resolution: Change your Mac display’s resolution - Apple Support.
"Set the resolution for a connected display
If you have more than one display, additional resolution options are available after the other display is connected.
- On your Mac, choose Apple menu
> System Settings, then click Displays
in the sidebar. (You may need to scroll down.) - Select the display you want to adjust, then select the resolution you want to use.
- You may be able to turn on “Show all resolutions” to see additional resolutions for the display.
Depending on how you adjust the resolution, some app windows may not fit entirely on the screen. Using a scaled resolution may affect performance."
If that doesn't work, you may need to adjust the settings on the display. You may want to contact the manufacturer to inquire about this.
Take care.