don't see allow accessory to connect in Mac mini m2

Refer to Link Below from Apple on this very topic

If your Mac asks you to allow an accessory to connect - Apple Support

Excerpt from link above

When you use a new or unknown USB accessory, Thunderbolt accessory, or SD card with your Mac laptop with Apple silicon and macOS Ventura or later,

This is not presented on Desktop Apple Silicon Computers

This is on Apple Silicon Laptops as per below image

Screen Shot from M2 MBA running Ventura 13.3.1

Can testify on my M1 Mac Mini this does not exist also running Ventura 13.3.1

EDITED

What port do you want to connect to? If that is not the issue, we need more details.