Thank you for sharing what you tried that has made a difference for you!
Re: "I would like more control over it, like a brightness slider".
From the Apple Watch User Guide :
For Watch OS 10:
Open the Settings app
on your Apple Watch, then tap Display & Brightness to adjust the following:
- Brightness: Tap the Brightness controls to adjust, or tap the slider, then turn the Digital Crown.
You can also make these adjustments on your iPhone. Open the Apple Watch app on your iPhone, tap My Watch, tap Display & Brightness, then adjust brightness and text. More info: For WatchOS 10: (or select your WatchOS from the top of articles:) Adjust brightness, text size, sounds, and haptics on Apple Watch - Apple Support
Maybe Adjust text size and other visual settings can help.
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Re: "I wish Apple didn’t make us jump through obscure hoops just to be able to see better!"
You may want to let Apple know:
Web-form for feedback:
Feedback - Watch - Apple