Hiding calendar dots for some of my events

How do I make certain calendar events not show dots on the month view, but still show up normally in the day view?

I have some frequently recurring events in my calendar (let's call one of them "Lunch" or another "Weekly cleaning") - that I don't want to see as dots on each and every day (or Saturday for the cleaning) in the month view.

Platform: iPhone. The events are in the "On My iPhone / Calendar" calendar. The events do have alerts enabled.

Alternate request: How do I make the other events (the ones that are really unique / important) show up with a different colour dot? That way I can tell if it's the same old stuff, or something special.