CarPlay text notifications not showing up

i just purchased a new car and now CarPlay runs wirelessly meaning it’s running all the time in the background, however it is not notifying me of my incoming text messages. No banner, No ding, nothing unless I am actively on the iPhone phone screen, which is impossible to do all the time. This was not the case in my 2020 model car with wired CarPlay. I can get Siri to announce my notifications and she will read my messages as they come in but there’s no option to reply so if my husband texts me what time are we meeting, there’s no option to answer him without taking my eyes off the road and opening up my phone. How can I fix this? I’ve notified Apple and they tell me they’re aware of it but today’s iOS 18.3 update did not fix this issue.