Can my Messages be monitored by my spouse if the phone is in their name?

can my text messages be monitored by my spouse if the phone is in his name? My spouse was out of town and knew a conversation through text between my daughter and myself. I saw were the text was only sent to her not a group text. When questioning my daughter she responded that she didn’t have any conversation with my spouse. Is it possible for my spouse to be monitoring my text and calls?


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Posted on Jan 13, 2025 06:49 PM

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Posted on Jan 13, 2025 08:05 PM

BobtheItalian wrote:

Not that I'm aware of. But I’m thinking we do share the same iCloud. His iPad , my iPhone? Is that possible?

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If so, that is the reason why your spouse can read your texts. Sharing an iCloud is the same as sharing an Apple Account. Apple Accounts are not meant to be shared and you should make your very own account immediately.


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Jan 13, 2025 08:05 PM in response to BobtheItalian

BobtheItalian wrote:

Not that I'm aware of. But I’m thinking we do share the same iCloud. His iPad , my iPhone? Is that possible?

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If so, that is the reason why your spouse can read your texts. Sharing an iCloud is the same as sharing an Apple Account. Apple Accounts are not meant to be shared and you should make your very own account immediately.


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Jan 14, 2025 07:27 AM in response to BobtheItalian

If you share the same iCloud, you share the same Apple ID.


On your husband's phone.......


Tap Settings

Scroll down and tap Apps

Tap Messages

Tap Send & Receive


Make sure that your phone number does not appear with a check mark. The only check mark should be next to your husband's phone number.


Unfortunately, if your husband discovers this and wants to monitor your messages, he will put a check mark next your phone number.


Likewise on your phone.......using the same check......make sure that the only check mark is next to your phone number

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