Updates that change the user interface automatically

What I don’t understand is why Apple simply doesn’t leave well enough alone when creating updates (functionality) for “our” phones? By all means, do whatever update you deem necessary, and those of course will invariably be fixes, and “improvements” to the user interface, but… please give us, the consumer the choice to change the myriad options on our phone. An interface is personal, and you get used to it and once an update changes clicks, location, color etc. of an action we, the consumer spend too much time looking for solutions to a unnecessary problem that Apple has created for us, and you spend too much time answering our barrage of questions about tweak, geek “fixes” that often are pedantic and near impossible to right depending on which version of device we are currently using. Please just leave our interface alone while adding the option to change it in settings. We know you know how, as you do it in reverse to us every time by changing our haptics, location, usability and functionality of our phone each time you deign to update our phones. I’m certain this isn’t for our safety or really any other reason other than Apple wanting to be in the drivers seat of our cart that we the consumer should at least be able to at some level master it’s usage. Give us the option, but don’t assume we want to fix what we certainly don’t believe is broken. One of the simplest examples of this is shifting our ringer to mostly silent mode if the screen is in eyeshot of our face. Nobody wants this fix, but of the three people that do, let them turn it on instead of making 300 million people turn it off. This harkens back to the mandatory U2 album that to this day I still have to remove from my devices repeatedly. U2 might’ve been your favorite band in high school but there’s a whole other, tiny subset of humanity that thought Bono’s voice grating and overall just weren’t into their brand of intellectual bardery. In short/maybe long, repeat after me- “We will gladly update your phone for you, even automatically if you so chose(mostly we we choose), but we will leave the continually ergonomic and comfort fixes to you, the brilliant and ever creative end user to decide as to which ones you’d like to Implement, because we here at Apple know you’re awesome, and intelligent and don’t continuously need your hand held in life (except when we automatically change the functionality of your device then bury the fix in some arcane setting folder- then in which case you totally do need hand holding and we are proven once again to be omniscient).” Or something to that effect.