my iphone 11 got security loukout, I need help

Here you go, this support article explains what to do if you forgot your Passcode and also provides a link if you entered the wrong one too many times.

If you forgot your iPhone passcode - Apple Support

Since your iPhone is running iOS 16, you do have the option of resetting the phone without using a computer.

How to reset your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch when you forgot your passcode - Apple Support

Also if you have an iCloud back-up you can just erase the phone and use the backup to get all your stuff back. There are other solutions on the apple support websites.