iPhone is being controlled remotely

So, for the past 2 years, my phone has been remotely controlled. One of the first things that "I noticed" was on a dating app I used, no matter who I chose, they were always 1 mile away. I thought it was odd but didn't think much of it. Later, I started noticing that anytime I would transfer money from one bank to another bank to pay a loan, it would either transfer back to the original bank without my doing, or it would disappear into thin air and neither bank would know what happened to it, but somehow the loan still got paid. The next thing I started noticing was my passwords on different apps (email, social media, etc) would change, I would not no notifications saying they had been changed; and no, I wasn't typing them in wrong, I have a password app I keep them all on so that I do not forget them. When I would try to change those passwords, it would ALWAYS give me a heck of a time trying to change them. Then I started noticing that I was getting less and less interaction on my social media accounts or no one could find me like I was being blocked FROM EVERYONE. Now going back to the dating app incident, I started seeing that anytime I would add a boost to my account, which would indicate a purple ring around your profile pic, anyone I talked to would have the same purple ring on their profile pic although before I connected with them, they did not have it and I started feeling like my apps were being cloned also, people who i had not connected with would just send me msgs and that's not how it works. So, I put my phone in airplane mode and used my home wifi, (I HAVE NEVER HOOKED MY PHONE UP TO MY WIFI BEFOREHAND) and it was good for about 10 minutes then the password to the admin app would get changed and I would get dropped from the network or the device would get removed from my account and I would have to add it again but every time I would add it, it would immediately delete again. I've seen quite a few posts of others saying the same thing and yes it sounds crazy to others because it's not happening to them, and they've never heard of it before. I don't care how long someone has been in the IT business, you don't know all there is to know about every kind of attack. I have tried everything from changing my apple account passwords, apple id, deleting apps and reinstalling, changing EVERY password, erasing my phone, changing SIMs, changing numbers, changing phones, THEY ALWAYS COME BACK.