iPhone Mirroring is not working with MacBook Pro

Macbook Pro M, iPhone 11s.

Mirroring works maybe 1 out 10 or 20 times I try it.

1) Mostly I just click on connect (iPhone on lock screen) and I get this error. I see no mirroring request on my phone.

I unlock the phone (don't click swipe, or touch anything else, all apps closed, bluetooth off) and I click connect and get this:

I see no mirroring request on my phone.

If I lock, or just let the iPhone self, I am back to error number one, and just repeats the process. Every once in a while it will work. If I restart the phone I will and try to connect and finally get this screen, and it will cycle throught this and the unlock code a few times, but not connect, and then randomly connect:

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