My Apple Watch is not updating but my phone is up to date
how come my phones up to date but my Apple Watch is not wanting to update
Apple Watch SE, watchOS 8
Which iPhone do you have, and is iOS 16.4.1 installed on it?
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copied from: Update your Apple Watch - Apple Support
Have a look at the article motioned above for more troubleshooting and how to update on your Apple Watch directly.