Smart Device Hierarchy?

Good day all!

My smart home is coming along nicely but in stages. I've recently run into the following issue and am wondering if there's a solution.

I have a room with 3-Way smart switches to control a single-circuit ceiling fixture.

This was previously a standard ceiling fan but I've recently upgraded it to a smart ceiling fan and light that's working great.

The problem is that turning off the switch turns off the fan and light, as well it should, but this renders the fan and light "unresponsive", also as it should. So when my wife or kids walk by a turn off the switch and I later say, "Hey Siri! Set the fan to low.", it doesn't work, as it should.

The question is this:

Is there a way to associate these two devices so HomeKit understands their relationship? Is there a device hierarchy of sorts so HomeKit understands:

a) That the unresponsive ceiling fan and light isn't an error if the switch is off.

b) That a request to do anything with this ceiling fan or light requires this switch to be on.

c) The contextual nature of a request. i.e., If this switch is off, everything behind it is also off, so if the request is to the on the "light", HomeKit should understand to turn on the switch, check the status of both the fan and light (because the fan remembers it's previous state), and if the light is on after turning the switch on to leave it that way, but if the fan is on, that it should be turned off.

Does that make sense?

I do see a "Group" option with some devices in HomeKit but it doesn't seem to do this. It seems to just link like accessories so they act as one.

I appreciate any input y'all might have.