Hi sjwSteven,
The following steps address what you're describing specifically, and should provide a solution:
"To change these settings, choose Safari > Settings, then click Tabs.
Option
Description
Tab layout
Keep tabs in a separate tab bar or move them into the toolbar.
Choose one of the following:
- Separate: Tabs remain in the tab bar, below the toolbar.
- Compact: Tabs move up to the toolbar. The active tab is the Smart Search field.
Always show website titles in tabs
Show website titles, even when a window is narrow or has many tabs.
Deselect this option to hide website titles and show only an icon."
So you would want to have "Always show website titles in tabs" unselected.
You can find these steps along with other information that may be helpful, here: Change Tabs settings in Safari on Mac – Apple Support
If this is not what you are referring to and don't see what you are looking for in Safari Settings, we are always looking for ways to improve our products, so we encourage you to leave feedback here: Product Feedback - Apple
This is the best way to have your voice heard by our designers and engineers.
Cheers!