forgot password my note

No. Apple does not track/maintain these secured notes passwords and cannot help in this matter.

Reset your notes password if you forgot it

To unlock a note, you need to enter the password that it's locked with. If you forgot the password, Apple can't help you regain access to your locked notes. You can create a new password, but this won’t give you access to your old notes. A new password will let you password protect any notes that you create going forward with the new password.

Ref: How to lock notes on your iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch - Apple Support

Yes, it has happened to other people. But since this is a local password in the security enclave there is no way for Apple to intervene and help you recover it. As a local passcode any system put in place to recover it could also be used by any hacker who has access to your unlocked iPhone making the password worthless as a security measure. To address this Apple added the ability to enter a password hint. You entered your name so I guess you intended that as some sort of hint to your password. You have one other possibility that is a long shot (but has worked for some people) you can find a hypnotherapist and see if they can help you recall the password.

Sorry, but if you forgot the password you used to create this note, there is no way to recover it. However, you do have an unlimited opportunity to keep trying.

No, that password only exists on your iPhone. That is why you enter a hint that will help you.

No there isn't other than you being able to recall the passcode.

Actually, no it is not. Apple specifically warns you about what would happen if you forgot your secure notes password. Whether or not, Apple will revise their policy on this no one here would know.