my iphone is disabled. need help connecting to Itunes

Connect iPhone to Computer / Mac

Settings > Touch/Face ID & Passcode > USB Accessories > [Enable]

Use your USB lightening cable --> Resolve USB-related alerts in iTunes - Apple Support

If unable to connect --> If iTunes doesn't recognize your iPhone, iPad, or iPod - Apple Support

If Computer does not recognise —> 

Use genuine cable --> Identify counterfeit or uncertified Lightning connector accessories ...

Troubleshoot —> Troubleshooting issues with iTunes for Windows - Apple Community

See how to --> Sync your iPhone, iPad, or iPod using iTunes on your computer ...

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