disabled XR iPhone wants iTunes, enters Trust loop

Over tried password and disabled XR iPhone

Connected to Mac but as asking for iTunes No longer exists

When do restore or update, does an update on phone since Finder , shows MY iPhone

but the iPone connection is cut (with a bling!)

But when open this MY iPhone location, goes to Trust question for both, clicl on it

goes into endless search but iPhone is not connected

When reconnect iPhone, goes back to generic iPhone to restart Restore cycle