This isn’t going to get addressed around here.
We can tell you how to try to re-secure this Mac and your Apple Accounts and such, but — for reasons mentioned below — we will probably not be able to dig into the personal and background and technical details of what happened here.
You have at least two problems in evidence, one may be a hack or may be a scam, and the other is with communications about the withdrawal and transfer and whatever else is happening as a result of the hack or the scam.
Any money converted into cryptocurrency and transferred — and Wells Fargo is exceedingly unlikely to suggest purchasing cryptocurrency — is best assumed to be permanently gone. Not unless the recipients are later identified. There is no mechanism for payment reversals or claw-backs.
The discussions ahead here will involve some very personal questions, too. Questions that are not appropriate for asking or posting in this or most any other forum. And the response will likely involve a look at the Mac and its contents, and at details such as whether you have (and still have) backups and such, as well as investigating whether this was a hack, some sketchy app installed, extortion, a pop-up, or something else.
If you have the budget for digital forensics and incident response, Dragos is one of the providers in this realm.