Re: Apple Watchh SE: "On the watch and on the watch app, it doesn’t let me turn on passcode and change it.
Wondering if your Apple Watch SE is using the newest available compatible WatchOS: watchOS 10.6.1
(Some updates may include bug fixes and security updates)
See more info: About watchOS 10 Updates - Apple Support
If your Watch OS is an earlier version, and you choose to update it, it is wise to back-up Watch data first.
Update your Apple Watch - Apple Support
Eg: says: "If your Apple Watch isn't compatible with the latest version of watchOS, Software Update will show you the newest version that your watch can use."
You can follow the steps in the above article.