Apple Calendar Changing Default Show As State from Busy to Free on Shared Invites

Hello, looking for support on this matter, my wife and I share calendar invites for our kids but when she invites me to a calendar invite for an activity, I don’t want it to affect my availability as I use Calendly to pull my various calendars and if an invite is marked as Busy on iCloud then the slot isn’t available in Calendly.

the problem is that when I receive her invites on iCloud under our Home calendar, I change the Show As from Busy to Free, but it doesn’t apply this to all recurring versions of the invite. I have to do it for each recurring invite to make sure it is set at Free instead of Busy.

as a parent, I want to know what activities are happening but not necessarily have to be in them.

please fix