To follow up on the linked thread, I am just trying to update an iPad, and it is telling me to connect to iTunes but my iMac is Ventura OS. How do I proceed without wiping iPad?

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I get that I can not use Itunes after whatever Mojave OS, but the ipad is telling me to use itunes. I went to the itunes store in Apple music, and to Finder, but after plugging the iPad into the iMac - 2017, 21.5 inch with ddr4, the machine does not recognize the iPad. How do I proceed without wiping this iPad and restoring it? Nothing comes up in finder, nothing comes up in Apple Music under Itunes store, and the app store wont even let me download Apple Configurator because the version is not new enough to work with configurator. Does anyone know how to update this?