Sonoma broke my photo library completely. I even deleted and created a new system library and it still completely busted

It began after an import from my camera. I went to delete a photo and it gave me a loading progress bar that lasted 20 seconds or so.. to delete one photo. Then I tried another. Froze. So I restarted the app. Gave me the "Restoring" loading screen but that only lasted about 10 seconds.

So I went for it again and tried to delete another photo. Same thing. Restarted. Same thing. Restarted my computer. This time when opening photos it said "Repairing 0%" and it hung there for about 10 minutes before it crashed. Tried repairing the library multiple times. This went on for about 4 days until I decided to try updating to macOS 14.1 to see if that fixed it. It did not.

So I ended deleting it completely. Then I created a new library, made it the system library and set it up. It's been a week and it has not synced one photo. It just says "Syncing 145,043 items from iCloud"

Tried repairing the new library. Tried deleting it and creating yet another system library. Still nothing. No syncing.

edit: the post is tagged as "macOS 10.15" this is incorrect. I'm using Sonoma on a brand new 16" m1 pro