How can I recover my Apple ID passcode
I can’t remember my Apple ID password and it’s almost making my phone useless
iPhone XR
You are asking about 2 different things...... 1) Apple ID Password and 2) Passcode for your phone.
If you are asking about your Apple ID Password......
If you forgot your Apple ID password - Apple Support
If you are asking about the Passcode for your phone.......
If your iPhone is running iOS 15.2 or higher........you can use the instructions linked just below:
How to reset your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch when you forgot your passcode - Apple Support
If your iPhone is not running iOS 15.2 or higher........please use the instructions linked below, but note that you must use a PC or Mac.
If you forgot your iPhone passcode - Apple Support
If you have a backup of the phone, you can use the backup to restore the data on the phone during the new setup.