Mac Ventura firewall resetting

I am new to Mac. Honestly I’m new to computers, the last one I owned it was a PC and it was 14 years ago.

I should preface this by saying I owned an android at one point, android was hacked and I spent years of my life trying to clear the wreckage. From bank accounts to fake accounts on social media; understand that I am a paranoid person.

when I got my Mac I turned on this firewall, seems awesome that it is built-in. But every time I go back and look at the firewall and click options the toggle that I have turned on seem to be turned off. For instance stealth mode. I will turn it on, everything is fine. My computer will either go into sleep mode or even after I’ve used it for 15 minutes I can go back and check and stealth mode will be turned off. The same goes for the setting block all incoming connections. So I’m naturally paranoid and pretty confused.

since I don’t really understand how to make anything work I am at a loss.

I’m hoping someone on here;

Can help me understand why it keeps resetting.

How/if I can stop it from doing that.

If your willing; provide me any other information on security settings that I would be wise to set up.

Maybe just general information that someone who is new could benefit from.

I appreciate you in advance.