Disabled iphone

If you forgot the passcode on your iPhone, or your iPhone is disabled or unavailable -

How to reset your passcode without a computer if you have iOS 15.2 or higher.

How to remove your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch passcode without a computer - Apple Support

How to reset your passcode using a computer.

If you forgot your iPhone passcode - Apple Support

And now, you must reset / erase the phone and set it up again.

If your iPhone is running iOS 15.2 or higher........(it appears that it might be).......you can use the instructions linked just below which will not require the use of a Mac or PC:

How to reset your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch when you forgot your passcode - Apple Support

If you are not sure which operating system is installed on your iPhone, please use the link below, which will require the use of a Mac or PC.

If you forgot your iPhone passcode - Apple Support

If you have a backup of the phone, you can use the backup to restore the data on the phone during the new setup.

It might be a good idea to write down the password that you are sure that you will never forget and keep it in a safe place.......to avoid another episode like this.