Apple TV remote to Apple TV
How can I connect my Apple TV remote to Apple TV
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The physical remote is automatically paired, but you can try pairing again. The virtual remote is built into control centre on your iPhone/iPad and you would pair with the Apple TV when using for the first time (it will require both be on the same wifi network)
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