This happened to me, too, on June 6. I have an iPhone and two Macs (both using iMessage in iCloud). My iPhone was fine, but iMessage on both of my Macs was stuck and non-responsive, even after multiple force quits and SAFE mode restarts.
After reading this thread, I noticed a mention of a sticker. The last message I had received was from an old thread that included a Thanksgiving Peanuts sticker. I could delete this message on my iPhone and M2 MacBook Air without any problems, but my M1 iMac was stuck and wouldn’t let me delete the message or get iMessage stable.
What finally worked was:
- Restarting the computer.
- Turning off iMessage syncing in iCloud.
- Restarting the computer again.
- Deleting the iMessage databases in the Library folder.
- Restarting the computer a third time.
- Opening iMessage.
After these steps, iMessage was empty but stable. I then reenabled iMessage syncing in iCloud, and iMessage synced all my messages (except the one with the sticker that caused the issue). It has remained stable since.