Turn Off Screen Time Request Via iMessage

You are not alone. It was driving me mad and despite being rolled out a few months back it seems to have only been triggered in the last week or so (we think because one of us was travelling and connecting to the family group differently). We have managed to fix this but I changed several things and I’m not entirely sure which element was the fix.

step 1 - I went into iMessage settings on our child’s device and deselected Apple ID as a send / receive option. It is now just her mobile number (I know for parents of younger children or just iPads this will be a pain).

step 2 - I deleted the offending iMessage thread that was Apple ID to Apple ID. Once again this may not work for you as we have a house device in the family as a family admin that is Apple ID only and meant I could delete the whole thread without losing anything else.

Having done these two things I can confirm screen time requests have reverted to notifications and the messages have stopped.

Even if some of the above can’t work with your circumstances take hope that a) it can be done and b) it’s something to do with these elements. Have a play around and you should be able to achieve the same effect.