Friend tells me I have notifications silenced in imessage, but I don't!

A friend of mine is telling me that when he goes to text me, his iPhone messages window says that I have my notifications silenced. I do not. This has happened several times in the last couple weeks.

I have my iPhone 12 mini, an iPad 9 and a MacBook Pro.

-All 3 have "focus mode" OFF.

-All have "share across devices" within the focus mode settings OFF.

I've asked other iPhone users I text with and they say that they don't see any notifications silenced.

Help?

Thanks, Bill