all websites say access denied on iphone

amaematt wrote:

how do i do all that?? it happens whether i'm on wi-fi or not

See the section on managing extensions here: Get extensions to customize Safari on iPhone - Apple Support

If you have installed a VPN client app, delete it. Press and hold the VPN client app until the pop-up shows, and select Remove App. More here: Get extensions to customize Safari on iPhone - Apple Support

How to: Force restart iPhone - Apple Support

Remove any add-on ad-blocker apps, and remove any Safari extensions, and remove any add-on VPN client apps, force restart the iPhone, and try again.

If it’s your Wi-Fi router, reboot that, too.

How to: Force restart iPhone - Apple Support