iPhone creating group texts on its own

For almost a week now, when my husband (iPhone 14 Pro Max) sends a text to me (iPhone 12 Pro Max) it automatically adds a 3rd party from our contacts as if it’s a group message. It doesn’t show it that way in his phone. It just looks like a message to me, OR it will have a “not delivered” red exclamation mark next to it (even though I’ve received it). When I respond back, it does the same for me. It looks like I’m sending it just to him, but he receives it as a group message that includes our friend.


We’ve tested out creating the texts a lot of different ways (deleting and going back to our original thread of just me and him; sending a message directly from Contacts; typing in the phone number manually) but it keeps reverting back to the group text with this person (same person each time. He’s an Android user. I’ve never texted this individual before now, but my husband has).


And yes, the 3rd party IS receiving these texts. We’ve apologized and he’s been understanding. But this is terrible! Especially the fact that the sender doesn’t see it as a group text. Only the recipient.


When this started last week, I thought maybe it was because I hadn’t updated to iOS 16 like my husband had, and there’s the new “unsend text” option. Thought maybe it was some sort of glitch between the 2 operating systems communication. But I updated right away (iOS 16.2) and it’s still happening. I’ve also done hard resets on both phones. Not sure what else to try.


UPDATE: I called Apple support and they say the only fix is to factory reset my husband’s phone as a new device from a computer. (They’re saying try his phone first because that’s how it originated) He can’t use the iCloud backup, because something is corrupted (they said maybe an old app). He’ll have to download everything individually. WHAT?! The more people I tell about this, the more I’m finding have the same problem. The Apple employee said hers started cc’ing her husband on every text. Then it progressed to cc’ing her father. That’s when she had to set it up as a new device and was completely annoyed about it. For now we’re using What’s App to text. My husband doesn’t want to reset his phone right now. But is this really the only way?

iPhone 14 Plus

Posted on Dec 21, 2022 11:19 AM

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Posted on Dec 21, 2022 11:31 AM

This sounds oddly similar to an uncommon bug in Recents from a couple of months ago. Entries in Recents would show the actual caller and then one additional, completely random caller. The solution was to clear the Recents list and restart the phone.


So, before you go restoring your husband's phone to factory state, I'd suggest the following:


  1. Delete all texts between the two of you from his phone. Delete your contact information from his phone. If it's always connecting to the same contact, delete that contact as well. Restart the phone and test. If it works, add back your contact and test. If that continues to work, add the additional contact back and test.
  2. If that fails, try deleting everything in Messages. And delete both contacts.


You can use an application such as PhoneView (Mac) or TouchCopy (Mac or Windows) to archive your texts to your computer as pdf or text files.

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Dec 21, 2022 11:31 AM in response to pritikinr

This sounds oddly similar to an uncommon bug in Recents from a couple of months ago. Entries in Recents would show the actual caller and then one additional, completely random caller. The solution was to clear the Recents list and restart the phone.


So, before you go restoring your husband's phone to factory state, I'd suggest the following:


  1. Delete all texts between the two of you from his phone. Delete your contact information from his phone. If it's always connecting to the same contact, delete that contact as well. Restart the phone and test. If it works, add back your contact and test. If that continues to work, add the additional contact back and test.
  2. If that fails, try deleting everything in Messages. And delete both contacts.


You can use an application such as PhoneView (Mac) or TouchCopy (Mac or Windows) to archive your texts to your computer as pdf or text files.

Dec 21, 2022 12:17 PM in response to pritikinr

Not sure I have an answer but a suggestion to try before the nuclear option!

My Mom & I have iPhone SE3s and a cousin on a Samsung. We have used a running 3way group text to set up monthly brunch dates for quite a while. We also each text to/from him independently about other stuff.

Last month after we both had iOS 16.1 installed the group went weird - some sends only going to 1 of 2 others, replies doing same so none of us had the whole thread.

Finally we ALL deleted every message & thread, including the Android user. Then I started a new 3way group. So far🤞it’s working.

One thing I learned - if a chat group has ANY non-iPhone member you can’t add or delete anyone or change the phone number. Delete all on all phones and restart!

Dec 21, 2022 11:34 AM in response to pritikinr

Bear through this, there is a punchline, I promise.

I have several contacts that have a "work" phone and a "personal" phone.

I've been struggling with the fact that Apple forces all of my texts, to these people, into the same thread. I can never know for sure which phone of theirs that it went to. I eventually have to go to their contact card where I see one of the numbers showing "recent" and then I kind of know, "That's not the phone that I wanted it to go to."

I have been slowly starting to create two contact cards for the same person in an attempt to separate texts to each number.

My thought is... Is it something like this that keeps bringing that 3rd person into your conversations? Have you tried deleting the problematic thread and starting fresh?

Idk... I'm just trying to help

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