how do i stop recurring charges to myapple id

See instructions in If you want to cancel a subscription from Apple - Apple Support

Or if the charges are for upgraded iCloud storage, cancel upgraded iCloud storage by downgrading to the free 5GB plan. See instructions in: Downgrade or cancel your iCloud+ plan - Apple Support

If that doesn't help, be aware that his is primarily a user-to-user support forum; other Apple users like you. We don't have access to information about charges to your account. See each of the steps in the following instructions. They include information on contacting Apple Support if the other steps don't help: If you see 'apple.com/bill' on your billing statement - Apple Support

or go to Subscriptions and Billing - Official Apple Support