Can I delete a message and have it removed from both sides?

As the previous contributors stated, you cannot delete a message on someone else's phone.

In the future you may want to consider using messaging apps that provide self-destructing messages: https://www.popsci.com/send-self-destructing-messages/

You cannot delete any message from the receiver’s phone.

You have no control over any other device. You can only delete it from yours.

I have tried it with my friends to see if it would delete from their phone, but once I deleted it they said they could still see it.